Yesterday, as I was about to leave the coffee shop to get to my office for an afternoon appointment, I noticed my right front tire was completely flat. My first thought was to call my client to…
Remember how hard it was at the beginning of the relationship to utter these three words? These words were once so powerful that when used prematurely have led to the demise of the relationship…
In The Mindful Way Through Depression, to illustrate how we tend to make problems bigger than they originally are, the authors use the following illustration, which I will paraphrase here (taking…
The self-esteem movement has taught us that in order to be of any worth, we have to convince ourselves that we are more important than we really are. Unfortunately, some people think that they…
It’s a classic. Of all the themes in the history of relational strife, the I’m Right, You’re Wrong story is by far the most common. And like many things common, we often take it…
What does therapy actually do? How does it work? Does anyone really ever change? The field of neuroscience has exploded in recent years, revealing a number of findings about the human brain; how…
Nobody likes pain. It makes sense that we make every attempt to avoid it or make it go away. That’s just part of being human. But why do some humans seem to have less of it than others?…
Many people come to therapy wanting to know why they have certain problems. They’ve been struggling with this problem for a long time and they want to understand why, because if they could…
My life changed forever on February 11, 2012, the day my daughter Sofia was born. She has taught me and challenged me more in the last five weeks about mindfulness than I ever learned on a cushion…
Several clients over the years have come to me with the task of helping them cope with some emotional problem. It appears that this is a widely held expectation for counseling. It makes sense that…