Excerpted from the WHYY webpage: While one person gets divorced and moves on, another seems stuck in a sense of victimhood for years. Or one child of divorce seems relatively unscathed and for another they are never able to establish intimate relationships. What is it about our history that sometimes stays with us and controls our lives? And why are some people able to let go of the past and others are not? Dr. Steven Hayes, professor, author and originator of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy suggests that the whole issue of fighting with, for and against our past is precisely what keeps us stuck there.