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5 Barriers to Change

The idea of change in the standard model of health is fairly simplistic. You take a dysfunctional behaviour and replace it with a functional one. Or worse, you take a dysfunctional thought and replace it with a functional, adaptive one. This approach works well if you are fixing cars or washing machines, but with a human being it is bound to fail. And guess who is left feeling a failure each time.

PR Power

How is it that people end up doing things that they know are bad for them? Everyone knows that smoking is bad for your health, people know that drinking too much will lead to problems. Over eating will definitely lead to being overweight and all the problems that come with that. Overspending at the shops will cause money problems later on. Yet the reality is that most people behave like this- its normal! More...

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Mark

3x3x3 Technique

One of the features of Autopilot is that it has a focus on the short-term. And usually the worse a person feels then the more Autopilot wants a really simple solution that is going to work in the very immediate future. Quite likely this is a feature of evolution in that it was going to be way more important to think about running away from a predator, or other threat, than to think about the longer term. In my opinion our fight/flight system is beautifully efficient when you look at it in detail. More...

The V Word

As you may know I tend not to use the V word to do values work, as it can lead people towards stories about values. Thus we can hear ideas like ‘I have a values conflict’, or ‘I have no values’. Instead I use the term ‘directions’ as it speaks to a felt sense in the moment that describes the type of energy the person is experiencing whilst they are in motion. In the Matrix language we describe these two forms of energy sensations as towards or away. More...

The Unlearning Zone

Everyone has heard about the Comfort Zone and the Learning Zone, but the reality of change is different. In the normal model of change you learn to do new things that will make life better. If only it was so easy. All you have to do is switch a behaviour that does not work with one that does. Not!

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What’s Right is Wrong and What’s Wrong is Right

What’s Right is Wrong and What’s Wrong is Right

Clients who come to therapy, or ask for help, will believe that there is something wrong with them. They will attend sessions in order for an expert to help them get rid of the problem. For many this sense of something being wrong with them will have started way back in childhood. It is the product of an environment that did not respond appropriately to their needs. Some experiences may be much worse such as abuse, neglect and over-control.

Shifting Sands Metaphor

Shifting Sands Metaphor
The purpose of ACT is not to fix symptoms, rather to develop a life life of meaning that is worth living. For the therapist this is a dramatic change of orientation towards the client. If we are not fixing things then what are we doing? What is our direction in sessions? More...

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Mark

ACT Fundamentals

Between the first part of the reference book 'Experiential Approach to Change' and the second part there is a gap, if you have not received a Behavioral Training. I call this area the ACT Fundamentals, without which it is much harder to unlock the power of the Hexaflex.

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